Ruben was born on the 9th of October 1991, in Dordrecht, the Netherlands. He is an intuitive, eclectic men’s coach and therapist with a very authentic and client-based approach.
He has worked with men since 2018, co-facilitating the RYIT initiation, after his own initiation was completed, and has started working 1-on-1 early the next year in 2019 as a coach. He is mentored by Eivind for 3 years since then and became the Course Leader for the Reclaim your Inner Throne European initiations in 2021.
He is trained in depth-psychology and rites of passage, as well as being versed in alchemy, mythology, symbolism, shamanism, classical literature, art, consciousness, and the function of story-telling and mythology on the development of the masculine psyche. Ruben uses story-telling and mythology as a way of teaching inside of the Reclaim your Inner Throne initiation.
As part of the Archaic Revival that Terence McKenna ideologically trailblazed, Ruben believes psilocybin could be the cure for modern-day neuroticism. By reducing the overdrive of the Default Mode Network, through the responsible use of psilocybin, it is possible to weaken the Ego’s hold on our psyche, of not dissolve it altogether, and it becomes possible to create new neurological pathways. (Though this is an area still fully being researched in the current psychedelic renaissance, he believes that in combination with psychotherapy, individuals and culture at large may be healed from suffering induced by psychological tension, like depression, anxiety, fear of death, fear of failure, etc.
The schools of thought that Ruben ascribes to consist of various psychodynamic forms of psychotherapy, which include Freudian psychology, that so brilliant elucidates the libidinal drives of our desires, and helps clarify dynamics with our parents and partners. Moving beyond Freud, we have the school of Carl Jung, with Jungian and Neo-Jungian psychology, which look at the dynamics of the Collective Unconscious, where archetypal powers drive mankind’s manifestations and desires. It is the realm of myth and symbols and archetypes. And, then there is Ruben’s personal favourite: Carl Roger’s client-centered therapy. This is all about helping you figure out what is true and aligned inside of you. Besides these classical forms of psychotherapy, Ruben upholds awareness of trans-generational trauma within Ivan Nagy’s contextual therapy, and is acutely aware of energetic shifts or blocks in your body as he is also a certified reiki master.
Ruben became involved with RYIT after years of addiction and suffering as the result of being raised in a fatherless home, which resulted in him being an idealist with a severe purpose void, feeling weak and lost.
He believes that the two major aspects of initiation of boys into manhood revolve around two things:
1. Transcendence of the Ego/Being held by a Higher Power, and
2. Welcomed into the world of men and their specific Modes of Being, which implies congruency and alignment.
He lives in the Netherlands and wants to create a world where boys can become the best men they can be.